My feet are killing me, I wore shoes today that were good for three hours at best....certainly didn't expect to spend the entire day with the highest ranking Polish Nationals in America. Surely My Mom and Step-dad and Busha and Dziadzi (My Grandparents) are smiling in Heaven right now....
This was just supposed to be a fun-weekend...Saturday Night, The International Ball at USNA and Sunday, Roedown. We were having a fabulous tailgate for clients at Roedown, and I had my dress, shoes and hat all set by Friday night.
My Sponsor daughter Dagmara, is an International Midshipman. She attended the Polish Naval Academy before coming to USNA from Poland in June. She took dance lessons with the Latin American Studies Club at school and was going to be part of the show. They were performing a very spicy dance to a style of Dominican music called Bachata...my favorite! I invited my friend Mayra to join me. She is from Santo Domingo and her son, Elvin, is a recent grad.
Typical Saturday, went to the gym, donated blood at the AAMC bloodmobile. Came home to do laundry and relax before dressing for the I-Ball.
Then I heard the news: No survivors. President of Poland dead. 6 Generals killed in plane crash in Russia, etc....Almost 100 in total. Wow, the day began to spin off in a whole other direction. I'll leave all my conspiracy theories out of this for now.
Quick rewind back to 2008, about the same time my mother died, My Sponsor Daughter, Sarah, came home from work and said, "Guess what, there's a Midshipman coming from Poland!" My mother would have rolled over in her grave and smacked me in the head if I didn't open my home to the first Pole at the Academy in close to 20 years. I called the Sponsor Office and the rest is history...
I was concerned about Dagmara. As is typical in the military, she often hides her emotions. But these are the people that helped get her here. They're dead. She was notified at 5am by the Attache, by noon she had already spoken with the Embassy several times, as well as her family in Poland. She's a very independent young woman, but she is half way around the world from her family and friends. She couldn't feel further from home than she did yesterday. Shock, sadness, anxiety, and a million questions.
She was told to be ready at 10am, a car would drive her to DC. She was to attend a special mass with the Polish Ambassador to the US & the Defense Attache today. She needed a black armband. They just switched uniforms this week, so we got her Dress Whites together to make sure she was ready for today. The highest ranking Polish Nationals in the US are here in DC at the Embassy and The Consulate/Economic Affairs Ministry and she has to shine today.
She decided to go ahead with the performance at the Ball last night but wanted to come home right after the dance. That's what we did. She yapped on the phone for quite some time in Polish. If only I could remember what I learned on my Saturdays at the Henryk Sienkiewicz School. I can sing more than a dozen Christmas Carols and another dozen Polish folk songs but I've only got about a handful of phrases in my head. 'Jak sie masz?' doesn't get you very far...
Probably better that I didn't know. She requested permission for me to attend the mass with her. She explained my family was from Poland and I am her sponsor...the Polish Assistant Attache she was speaking with was an alum of the US Air Force Academy. He cross commissioned into the Polish Army. A Polish Sponsor Mom? He fully understood who/what I was to her.
Um, yeah...except he thinks I'm Polish...like, from Poland.
I have to let the folks at work know I can't be at Roedown . The last thing I want to do is insult a foreign ally in the midst of a horrific national tragedy.
What to wear? Something that shows my Polish pride. A Krakowianka folk costume? Nah! My Mom’s gold eagle WITH crown. Simple, powerful, and screams, 'yeah I know my heritage.' Excellent! Too bad "Dzien Dobry Pan" is as far as I can get in conversation.
At 10am the car picked us up at the Academy....just about the time we're passing the beltway, I realize our 'driver' is actually our escort, Lt. Commander Szymanski, of the Polish Navy, an Assistant Naval Attache. Alrighty then....did I really just tell this man I can still sing all Polish Christmas Carols? Wow.
Shut up Jude, really, just shut up. OK, Hush up, as my Mother would say.
A special visit to the Polish Embassy was arranged for me. Approval was given to bring an American civilian in through the driveway entrance. Dagmara and I were ushered upstairs to the private offices and invited to sign the Book of Condolences. Oh great, think quick. This is it forever, your words etched in Polish history?!!
I wrote "With our deepest sympathies to the People of Poland on this great tragedy, Judith Buddensick and the Buddensick, Walenczyk and Dziengaleska families."
Is that a sentence? Does it mean anything? Who knows? It's better than "I can sing Kolendy!"
Whisked away to "Matki Boskiej Krolowejpolski i Sw. Maksymiliana Kolbe" Parish. It was a magnificent stone church tucked away in the trees on a side street in Silver Spring.
We parked and two other cars pulled up next to us. General Soczewica, Defense Military, Naval and Air Attaché and his wife were in the first car. The Generals that were killed were this man's dearest friends. He was just in Poland with them all week. When he boarded his plane to return to the US, he learned the other plane had gone down. He wanted to stay in Poland, he was told to return to his post in the states. The other man in the car was the 'zoomie', Lt. Colonel Nowak, Assistant Defense, Military, Naval and Air Attaché. He served under four of the Generals. This was business and it was most definately personal.
As each was introduced, I shook their hands and politely said "Dzien Dobry"....I thought it was respectful to say Good Morning in Polish. Until the rapid fire conversation and questions started. All I can say at this point is "Nie rozumiem po Polski" (“I don't understand Polish”) Way to go Jude!!
No worries....Eventually, I do redeem myself.
As the receiving line to greet the General grew to 40 or 50 people I thought it best to head inside the church to prevent any other words of wisdom from coming out of my mouth.
I was seated in the 6th row, the first row behind the reserved seating for dignitaries. First 2 rows are for The Ambassador, The General, the 8-10 Officers that work for him and Dagmara. The only female. The only 1 in attendance, of the four Polish Nationals currently attending US Service Academies.
All the TV stations had cameras set up at the back of the church. There were news cameras on the alter and in the choir loft. Reporters and photographers were interviewing mourners. Make no eye contact Jude!!
There is an icon of Our Lady of Czestochowa, a statue of Mary and a banner of the late, great JP2 surrounded by colorful hydrangeas on the alter....made me think about Easter Sundays with my Mother.
I followed along pretty well. It's not like the language changes the order of the mass. I was teary eyed when i received Communion and realized how many people were outside listening....there was several hundred people outside that could not get into the church it was so packed. Afterwards, the Ambassador gave a eulogy, no clue what he said. I'm sure it was lovely, not a dry eye in the house. I was so honored and so humbled. We san Boze Ces Polski (God Bless Poland) as the recessional hymn.
I stayed a few minutes longer and took some beautiful photos of the church. Dagmara said we were invited to lunch, and asked if that was okay....hey, I'm just a passenger along for the ride. I thought it was a big luncheon and I could just blend in with the crowd. Wrong!
Our Naval Attache driver left with his wife and kids, now the Lt. Colonel took over....he wears his USAFA ring with great pride. I did point out that Navy beat Air Force again this season. LOL. He's an awesome guy. He's giving us the tour of Embassy Row and any place of note we pass. We head to his home in Bethesda so he can change clothes and we can pick up his wife and kids. He told his 3 year old son to call me 'Ciocia', yeah, I know the Polish word for Aunt...I'm digging it. The General and his wife are simply in love with the Lt. Colonel’s two sons, Mateuz and Rafal. I surely didn't expect that I would later see the surly General playing on the ground with little Rafi.
We head to the Consulate to meet up with everyone. They ask if I eat Mexican food because the General loves it. Uh, sure dude, whatever The General likes is fine with me. Here comes the General and and his wife, in civvies, comfy shoes too. My three hours are officially over and my feet are killing me. Where is everyone else?
Yikes, this is it....The General and his wife, The Lt. Colonel, his wife and two boys. Ciocia Dagmara and Ciocia Judy too. Whoaaaaaa.
I did my best not to speak unless spoken to. The Mexican restaurant served my favorite Dominican dessert, Dulce de Tres Leches. I encourage everyone to share one or two pieces. They love it. Rafi loves it. He blows me kisses across the table. Mateuz giggles when I tickle him.
Am I really here?
We walked back to the Consulate. The General walked away as Dagmara and I got into the car with the Lt. Colonel. I asked where he was going...
Ohhhh, back to work. The General and the Ambassador must go to the Embassy to greet Secretary Clinton? She's coming to pay her respects and sign the book of condolences? Excuse me, would you repeat that? Been there, done that.
Lt. Colonel Nowak took us to the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception. Gave us quite the tour....naturally we ended our tour at Our Lady of Czestochowa....he is from Czestochowa. Oh, sweet, dude, I was there when I was in Poland!
Surreal moment number 15 of the day....a Polish Army Officer is giving me a guided tour of MY country's national basilica....How did I get here?
He drove us back to Annapolis...what an experience, what an honor, what have I done???? I invited them to Annapolis to visit...I gave him copies of What's Up? Annapolis and Eastern Shore and told him to let me know when they want to come this way....we can go out on the boat...sure hope he has better docking skills than I do!
We dropped Dagmara off first. I said, "She's a good girl." He fired back at me..."You make sure she gets good grades!"
WHAT????????? You can't put that on me, dude! Quick Jude, change the subject.
I told him that I would be honored to Sponsor any future Polish Midshipman if they wanted me to. We exchanged phone numbers and email addresses, my new BFF. We hugged goodbye.
Wow. Today was for Mom, Pete, Busha and Dziadzi.
Dobranoc Kochanie.